Self doubt keeps us timid where we could be bold, bright, beacons of light.

Is life just ‘okay’ when it could be outstanding? Are we tired of living just okay lives? Are we tired of being depressed or discouraged when we could be delighted – and delightful? I think so!

The solution: Begin to look at the story you’re living by. Shine a light on it. Really investigate it. Tell the truth about it. See if it serves you.

See if it’s time to be telling a new story – to others, but more importantly, to yourself!

To begin, take the Heroine’s Heart Assessment here: http://kamalamurphey.com/assessment

It is said that on a tropical island, in the deep South Pacific, native tribes caught monkeys by hollowing a small space in a coconut and filling that space with delicacies a monkey couldn’t resist. The monkey could reach in the opening, but once the treat was grabbed, the fist was too big to get back out.
If the monkey let go of the morsel of food, he could go free. If she insisted on holding on, and kept a clenched fist, she was a goner.
Lots of monkeys became that night’s dinner for the tribe.

The coconut was not what trapped the monkey. The real trap was the monkey’s attachment to his possession, his unwillingness to “let go.”
And like the monkey, sometimes the more we hold on to something, the worse it is for us!
Unfortunately, many of our attachments are unconscious. Nonetheless, we can tell they are there when we continue to behave in certain ways and experience consistently painful results. It takes a courageous heart to say ‘Enough!’ and willingly shine a light on those previously unexamined thoughts, beliefs, and attachments.
If you’re aware that you may have some unhelpful beliefs or attachments in the area of finances, please join me for the upcoming “Making Friends with Money” teleseries later this month! Click here for more information: http://kamalamurphey.com/mfms/
Special Pricing for Making Friends with Money ends Wednesday, March 14th

I’ve had several of those moments in the last week – when I gave a talk about Making Friends with Money and almost every time I’ve thought about it since.  Not having had the greatest relationship with money, I find it particularly delightful that now when I think of the new relationship I’m creating with money, I smile!

I’ll be offering a 4 session teleseries about Making Friends with Money beginning March 21st.    Click below for more info!

http://kamalamurphey.com/mfms/

You know when you hear a saying or read a quote that just speaks to you? That knock through the layers of ho-hum-ness and wake you up? Something that created a stir for me recently came through an email. At first, I thought, ‘oh, jeez, one of those silly chain letter type things.’ But as I read it, images of the women in my life who fit the description kept popping up!

Today someone asked me if I liked you.

I laughed, and said, “Ha! That’s funny!! I freakin’ LOVE that chick!! She’s funny, caring, crazy as heck, sweet, beautiful, she’s reading this email right now & I love her!!”

And it closed with,

Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says~ “Oh Crap! She’s up!”

I found myself reading it over and over. I started thinking about all the women in my life I totally love – and just how weird we all are! Not a completely ‘normal’ one in the bunch (Thank God!) I found myself laughing and crying, cherishing that love and the joy of our little idiosyncrasies!

We are all weird! We are bright lights carrying brilliance beyond measure. And our weirdness doesn’t diminish that brilliance – it just gives us a few edges to bounce that brilliance off of!

Today, honor who you are – quirks and all. Let your friends know how much you love ‘em! And, above all, aim to be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says~ “Oh Crap! She’s up!”

A while back, I watched part of “Have a Little Faith,” a movie based on Mitch Albom’s book of the same name. In the film, the old Rabbi asked Mitch, ‘What’s Your Glory?’

Here are some definitions of glory:
1. very great praise, honor, or distinction bestowed by common consent; renown: to win glory on the field of battle.
2. something that is a source of honor, fame, or admiration; a distinguished ornament or an object of pride: a sonnet that is one of the glories of English poetry.
3. adoring praise or worshipful thanksgiving: Give glory to God.
4. resplendent beauty or magnificence: the glory of autumn.
5. a state of great splendor, magnificence, or prosperity.

We all have gifts we’re meant to share. And, I believe when we acknowledge and honor these gifts, we are sharing our glory. Sharing that glory lights all of us up, making it easier to see the magnificence we all carry.

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Think of how much more joyously our work can be shared when we own these gifts and recognize and beckon them out in others.

We are Precious Jewels in the Crown of Spirit – Julia Cameron

Each of us is unique, valuable, worthy, and irreplaceable.  Each of us is kind, wise, knowing, and gifted.  Each of us is filled with dignity, gifted with humor, funded with strength.  We are met as equals.  We bear gifts for each other.  Our hearts are true friends, true colleagues.  We have a place with each other.  We have a need for each other.  All of us seek the same answers, although we find them by different routes.  All of us hold the same questions although we express them in different ways.  Our loving hearts hold the solutions all of us seek.  This is a great blessing and indisputable fact.  In loving each other, we love the world.  In loving each other, we find the world.  The world we find is healed by our loving hearts.

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What I love about this is in the knowing of our value, of our honoring that our loving hearts have all that we seek.  This is what the Heroine’s Heart and the Heartchetypes are all about.  We are brilliant and valuable beings who, by honoring all that our hearts bring, we are in closer alignment with the Divine’s plan for us – each of us.

I have a calling.  I know I do.  And to fulfill that deep calling within me, I need to be Brave.  I need to access my form of BraveHeart.  To allow the BraveHeart aspects of Kamala to come forward.

(what’s a BraveHeart?  Take the Heroine’s Heartchetype Assessment now.

Some of us LOVE money. Some of us push it away. Or think it sinful. Or lust after it. Or have a love-hate relationship with it. Some of us think having it will save us. Some of us know it won’t.

What power does money have over you? You might just want to pull out a dollar bill and take a look at it. I mean really – go get a dollar bill (any paper money will do). I’ll wait.

Now, take a good look at that bill. Feel it. Turn it over. What thoughts or feelings do you notice?
• ‘I wish I had more’
• ‘There’s not enough’
• ‘Gee, I never noticed that’
• ‘I’ve got to be careful with money’
• ‘Oh, my heart’s beating faster’
• ‘I like money’

What were your thoughts or feelings? Pretty powerful stuff for a little piece of paper, huh?

The exercise is great at bringing up some of our more subtle beliefs about money. I’m one of those who has had a come here-go away relationship with money. It’d be nice if it FELT like more of a flow – an easy, natural, in and out, but it hasn’t always seemed that way!

The more we examine and clean unhealthy beliefs about money, our thoughts about ourselves and money, the more that easy, natural in and out seems to happen. The ins are great and the outs don’t feel like something’s going wrong.

But when we fret about every little thing, constrict over some minor snag, where’s there any room for the abundance to come in?

Trust that things happen for the highest good. Even if we can’t see it at the moment. Something good will come of it.

A client recently had an important real estate transaction fall apart. She and her husband had been counting on that money. As disappointed as she was, we worked together so she could focus on the new belief that somehow this was in her highest good.

She was able to look for the possibilities that were presented as this deal fell through. One of the most apparent that jumped out was her deep desire to build a thriving business – not having that little windfall encouraged her to think ‘what would a successful businesswoman do’ – and then go do it. She got excited about that prospect. She committed to taking several inspired actions that created a sense of success for her.

And within three days, a new offer came in – for nearly $20,000 more than the original. Pretty cool!

She discovered something powerful – money is neutral. When we create new beliefs about money, establish new behaviors about money, and embrace the truth about who we are in regard to money, magic WILL happen.

Want to experience some of that magic for yourself? You can! Join me for a Making Friends with Money Immersion: 3 Keys to Creating a Joyful Relationship with Money. I have space for 5 of these individual intensives at a SweetHeart Savings (until February 14th). Find out more at http://kamalamurphey.com/programs/mfm

Do the beliefs you have support you to be the woman (or gentleman) you want to be?

Beliefs, those ‘structures’ upon which we base our behaviors, and lives, may have served and supported us in the past.  But in the present?  Perhaps not so much.  The truth is that our unexamined beliefs prevent many of us from wholeheartedly following our dreams.

The doubt

As we are learning how to stretch ourselves beyond the comfort zone, and can step more solidly into our callings, we will experience periods of doubt and fear, as well as the joy of breakthroughs. Fear and doubt will likely warn us of the danger of crossing into the unknown, the dangerous new territory. They may whisper; they may grab you and demand you listen; they may scream so loudly that the noise seems unbearable. They aren’t evil, they’re just trying to keep you safe. They just haven’t recognized that the boundaries of ‘safe’ have changed. It will be our job to remind them.

In order to keep reminding fear and doubt that the playing field has changed, we’ll need to keep encouraging ourselves. It’s wise to remember how courageous we are being, we are moving mountains, even if the mountains may seem tiny. It is important to celebrate all of our wins, to have a few trusted others to celebrate our wins with us. It’s wise to choose others who can support us and encourage our tiny steps. Sometimes those closest to us are not those people. (Darn!)

When we are changing our ways, we will be shifting the status quo, rocking the boat. This will make some people very uncomfortable, particularly those closest to us, since they’re nearest the epicenter of our change. Even if they want the best for us, our movement will cause a ripple in their lives, too. And not everyone will be enthused about having their own world made unsteady. We’re funny creatures. In our dreams, we want to change and grow, but in the ‘real world’ change isn’t always so welcome. If we change, we unsettle others’ beliefs about us, about how to relate to us, how they can behave with us and what results they can expect. They’ve gotten used to us being a certain way – they’ve developed a comfort zone in respect to us – and a change in us is going to mean a change for them. Our relationships are like a child’s mobile…when one piece is moved, the entire mobile moves. Expect a little pushback from your loved ones, and try to ride through the waves that are created.

“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.

I want to be thoroughly use up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live.  I rejoice in life for its own sake.  Life is no ‘brief candle’ for me.  It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.”

~ George Bernard Shaw

I love that line…”being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.”   I certainly don’t like to admit it, but there are those times when I grab my little sense of entitlement and become that feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances!

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This year, one of my intentions is to love my pouty, little princess (who wouldn’t?), but not let her run the show!

Murmuration from Sophie Windsor Clive on Vimeo.